Important Tools to Better Self-Esteem in Children
For more tips on self-esteem, listen to our podcast episode How to Support & Build Kids’ Self-Esteem.
Research shows that on average, girls’ self-esteem peaks at age 9 before it then decreases throughout the tween and teen years. But boys are not immune either as we have seen self-esteem issues in boys triple over the past 25 years. What is going on?
Before I share some insights into self-esteem, it is helpful to first know what it is.
Healthy self-esteem is:
- A realistic and appreciative view of the self
- A faith in one’s ability to handle life’s challenges
Poor self-esteem in children has many detrimental effects in both the short and long term.
- Withdraw from challenges
- Don’t try new things
- More troubled by failure
- Blame others rather than taking responsibility
- Easily influenced by peers
- Engage in critical self-thinking
- Experience social anxiety
- More likely to engage in disordered eating, smoking, drinking or bullying
- Engage is sex younger
- Lower achievement scores in school
- More likely to meet criteria for drug and alcohol dependence
- Less enjoyment from relationships
- Increased risk for suicide and self-harming behaviors
- Lower success in careers, school and relationships